Anniversary

[hacket]

My gf and I have actually been talking about getting married since like month 4 of dating. It's pretty crazy how we clicked and haven't had any big problems. We're planning a wedding for summer 2010. We'll have been dating for 3 years by then. Exciting times!

[Kyoberr]

Originally Posted by trashion

Thinkin' about an informal marriage sometime in the future...

An informal marriage? What does that mean?

[trashion]

Meaning, screw the ridiculous formalities. The average wedding costs like $30,000. I don't need that. Informal as in, going to the town hall, getting the papers signed so that if/when I am dying in the hospital and only family members are allowed, my boy can see me. Other than that, I see marriage as a dated, useless sort of institution.

[COM]

I agree with you on that concept.

You don't need to get married to do that, though. You can sign a designation agreement for mutual care that would serve the same purpose, and you could do it at a lawyer's office.

I won't get married (or even consider it) until there are equal marriage rights for all couples regardless of the gender of the parties. How is it the role of a state to say who or who can't love each other? Disgusting.

[hacket]

Originally Posted by trashion

Meaning, screw the ridiculous formalities.

I pretty much agree with you on that. Weddings are ridiculously expensive. Personally I'd like to have just a small ceremony. It is your wedding day after all But anything that costs more than 5-7K is just dumb......Now I just need to convince the gf.....

[Baby_Baby]

I want to have a wedding so I can wear the pretty dress and have photos to show my kids as they grow up. I also want a giant cake I can stuff my face with and look at my husband and tell him to say goodbye to my beautiful figure.
tee hee, totally kidding on that goodbye thing, but still...I want me some cake!! <3

[Osiris]

be going on 6 or 7 yrs come Dec.

Met her while was getting the beat down from my Sgt. in military, she was military intelligiance, i was infinitry, was meant to be! LOL.

I proposed on valentines day last year, we're closing deal next sept of next year, be a grand huge wedding, ceremony in a big gardens place, actually called wedding gardens! Party afterwards, we took the entire golf resort for whole day, spot lights at nite to help show the way for guests, lights, teki fire torches outside for dancing outdoors, completely done up with orchid flowers

Cake has a lit up waterfountain under it... "the dance" we plan to start lessons soon to learn how to ball room dance for that thought always neat and sophiscated if could do that.

My wallet is now empty. lol.

a past ex g/f, i did on anniversary a rose petal walkway from door to the bedroom, she had a white featherdown comforter, advice, remove petals first from that.

[karazy]

i wanna get married underwater

[trashion]

Really? I didn't know that, COM. Thanks for the heads-up. And I 100% agree with you about equal marriage rights for all couples.

[hacket]

Originally Posted by Osiris

Party afterwards, we took the entire golf resort for whole day. My wallet is now empty. lol.

Yea that's gotta be quite a bill. Holy crap. Not to be nosy but how much did that run?

[wifishman]

my wedding bill was 28k after everything..... church, flowers reception, food, band, and the open bar... thats the one that killed me..

[Osiris]

Originally Posted by hacket

Yea that's gotta be quite a bill. Holy crap. Not to be nosy but how much did that run?

Havent paid for all of it yet, as most will be taken care of in the spring, but am estimating around 15-20k. Including honeymoon, maybe. Am planning a sandals getaway nice little villa overlookin ocean.

I get nice bonuses and sold my kidney.

[emc7]

Nice weddings are great, but I'd rather put a down payment on a house.

[hacket]

Agreed there, emc. I've got a few student loans to worry about as well.....plus I'm not even a big fan of receptions, parties, etc.....My gf either. Whatever floats your boat eh?

[Kyoberr]

It does sound expensive, but it does (should) only happen once.

[trashion]

Too bad more marriages end in divorce than end up lasting...Not worth it IMO.

[tiffsplaties88]

i'm getting married in one month.. and our wedding church, photos, food, 200+ guests and everything is probably going to max out at 3500...

[Buggy]

Mr. Buggy and I just had our 9th in March. I would like to renew our vows and have the whole big wedding thing next year for our 10th, but it's not going to happen. We went to the Justice of the Peace. Cost of license, filing fee and a bit for the JP is all it cost. I think taking my mother out to dinner afterward cost more then the wedding did. lol
I did miss not having the fancy dress, church, flowers and all but flowers and lace does not a marriage make.

[Scuba Kid]

Originally Posted by trashion

Too bad more marriages end in divorce than end up lasting...Not worth it IMO.

That's not a problem with the institution, that's a problem with the couples. You can't say because a majority of marriages end in divorce, yours will too. That's entirely up to you and your partner.
I guess I just feel differently about it because the couples in my family have all been together for years. My parents started going out when they were 15 and they've been married for about 20 years. My grandparents started going out around the same age and they've been married for 45 years, I think. I can't really think of anyone in my family that has been through divorce, and no one that is miserable in their marriages, either.

[JustOneMore20]

I want to get married on the beach. I don't know if that will happen, but its my goal.


I'm like you Katie, my parents have been married a long time (25 years) and my grandparents on my dad's side over 50 years. My mom's parents actually got divorced about 5-6 years ago, but my grandfather remarried, so while its weird, it doesn't steer me away from wanting to be married.

I agree that its the couples who decide to get divorced, not the institution.